I just finished reading The Mother of God by Luna Tarlo. Fascinating tale of an incredibly courageous woman and her struggle to free herself from guru-disciple bondage to her son, American Guru
Andrew Cohen.
It brought to mind a distinction I consider myself very lucky to have been given. It came by way of both my Tai Chi Sifu William Chin and my Aikido Sensei James Friedman. It has to do with the idea of their being One True Way to practice/accomplish/pursue X (whatever X happens to be), and it goes a little something like this – there isn’t one.
Sifu used to make jokes about Tai Chi and Kung Fu teachers who would suggest, or outright state, that a given technique or style was the best. He also maintained that a basic approach to studying martial arts was to acknowledge that there are a finite number of ways in which a human body can move, and therefore it could be studied while also maintaining that all fighting was far too fluid to think there was any one perfect way to approach the issue. He used to say that anyone could take anyone else out, it was just a matter of odds. In some cases the odds were incredibly long, but there was always a chance some random event could change things.
My Sensei James Friedman, along with his Sensei Kato Hiroshi, are both more explicit in the matter. At Suginami the prevailing opinion is that if any martial artist says there is one way to do a technique, they’re wrong. The effect is that our eyes are very open to see they ways that visiting instructors do things. As the manager I have personally been told by several guest instructors, and their assistants, that the students at Suginami “catch on” to things that the visiting instructors are doing that are stylistically different to how we do them better than the majority of schools they visit. There is an openness to experimentation at the school that goes a long way to strengthening the practice.
My Mother also always encouraged me to question things, even when that lead to bad disagreements between us.
I take this attitude into all my interactions, and when I see the doctrine of the One True Way bubble up, it sets off red flags. As illustrated by The Mother of God, I think this is a great spiritual life preserver to have in my personal life tool-kit.
Different methods answer different questions at different times for different people. Diversity is a big part of this whole life thing, and attempting to stuff events into a one-size-fits all homogenized solution never seems to quite work out. So, when learning the next cool thing, keep a grain of salt handy and don’t fall victim to One True Way thinking. At the very least that will keep you a free-thinker.
If, on the other hand, there is an actual guaranteed solution to life’s travails out there, please, please, please let me know!






