Archive for the ‘Fitness’ Category

A Minimalist Approach to Great Achievements


16 Jul

The best results in my life, for achieving worth while goals, have all come from making something a daily practice. When I first woke up to the fact that I had made myself morbidly obese, I weighed 396 pounds at the age of 21, the thing that saved me was committing to a daily practice of writing down everything I ate and doing T’ai Chi Chih. I made the commitment to do these two things for 1,000 days. Finishing that thousand days made a fundamental change in my life, gave me a craving for physical fitness and helped me to shed the first one hundred of the excess pounds I carried. I also reclaimed my body, cleared an infection in my foot that had persisted for seven years and five operations, and gained a much larger engagement with life.

My struggles with weight continued, but in general got better. When I started Aikido I learned there was a program for living at the dojo, this is called being an Uchi-Deshi (disciple in the house) in Japanese.   A year and a half later I moved in. That required a minimum of a one year commitment. I let my Sensei know that I wanted to stay until I had my shodan (first degree black belt.)  I ended up taking my black belt exam after twenty months.  My Sensei asked me about staying for an extra year to focus on teaching, and I decided to do that.  Midway through the first year, through a mistake on my part, the requirement for Uchi-Deshi was changed from ten classes a week to twelve, with the additional requirement of making at least one class every day.  So, once again I found myself having a daily practice.  When I was training ten classes a week, and taking the weekends off, I was making very good progress.  But, the simple shift to training everyday made a quantum leap in my progress.  It was not quite like a rocket ride into the upper reaches of Aikido Mastery, nothing of the sort, but the difference it did make was nearly immediate, and very obvious to everyone I trained with.

By the time I was done with my term as Uchi-Deshi I was down to 185 pounds.  My practice slacked off a bit, I only attended the dojo five days a week, and the weight began to come back on.  Two years ago I was back up to 260.  I got strict with my diet again, and the scale crept slowly back down, but I could feel myself losing the struggle.  It was time for another commitment.  I cut out all snacking and eat only three meals a day now.  Plus, I cut out all sugar based foods – cakes, cookies, candies, confections, deserts.  Also, I identified two trigger foods that I no longer eat: Pizza and Peanut Butter.  I have not set any time frame on this way of eating, I simply make it a daily practice.  This is how I have eaten for the last two years, and am back down to 190.  The great thing about this practice is that I don’t have to consider the future, or the past, this is just how I am for this day.

Most recently I have re-taken a meditation practice into my life (along with my wife).  And, you guessed it,  it’s daily.  I’ve been at it for about four weeks now, nothing earth shattering to report yet, other than the few things I have already blogged about, but it does feel a lot deeper than just meditating once in a while when the need/mood strikes me.  I look forward to a good report in a year, or two.

A Fan Letter to Ben Davis


14 Jun

I sent the following email to Ben Davis today and wanted to post it here as well -

Hello,

I am now, have been, and will remain a happy and loyal customer of Ben Davis.

When I was 21 years old I tipped the scale at the doctors office at 396 pounds.  At 5’6″ that’s a whole lot of waistline.  60″ to be exact.  At that top weight I could just get into your size 60, but not only were they readily available, but they also actually looked good.  Well, they did not make me look as BAD as every other brand I tried.  You can imagine how grateful I was for that, and continue to be.  When I got down to size 48 I tried Dickies.  No go.  I have only bought Ben Davis since (except when out to buy a suit with my wife) and have no intention to go back.  With the exception of length, I have short legs, I have never has to have adjustments made on the pants.  They always simply fit well.

I am down to 188 pounds, and 36 size waist now and Ben Davis still look the best.  I am not sure how many pairs I went through on my down and up and down battle against the bulge, but I really don’t care.  Whatever size I have been at Ben has been with me.

Thank guys.  You rock!

My Pattented Solution to Every Problem Anywhere – The EEET Method


06 Jun

John Wesley, over at Pick the Brain, nails one out of the park with his post – Here’s a Tip: Start Thinking for Yourself

He is, once again, brilliant and right on!

So many are looking, so desperately, for the one-stop cure-all magic-pill solution. We hop from one scheme/plan/method/secret/teacher to the next hoping to “get it” and be done.

The funny thing is there is an answer – Effort, Examination, Experimentation and Time.

That will cure all woes. But, who is willing to do that?

As an example, the clicking point for my ongoing journey from 396 pounds afraid, desperate and isolated, to 189 awake, grateful and connected was the moment I decided to actually do something about it. The next click was when I faced the fact that it had taken me 21 years to get to that point, and would take me more than a few days to get out. Finally another big click occurred when I realized that the trick was not losing the weight, the trick was learning to live my life without the numbing comfort of food addiction (but, that’s another story.)

I have learned that with all four of the components in the EEET Method (tm, copyright, patent-pending) one can progress through any problem we face.

Effort -

To affect any change things must move from there current state

Examination -

Determining both the roots of the issue being worked with, and the tools available.

Experimentation -

Tracking progress and matching for effectiveness. Journaling is highly valuable here. One should never be afraid to give a given tool a full day in court, and then to drop it and change to a new one as needed.

Time -

Nothing ever occurs outside of time passing. Ever. Any change to be wrought in our lives is nested in time. The least we can do is honor that by putting in the time required to affect a change rather than just the time we are willing to put in.

There it is. The supreme universally applicable EEET method. If you would like to donate for the amazing power of this incredible method please click the donation link below and send me a dollar.

The Top 5 Things All Diets Have In Common


09 May

I have been involved in a personal quest to find the ultimate diet for as long as I can remember. Since I was a very small child I battled with weight issues and tried a variety of methods for losing weight. I finally ‘hit bottom’ and got serious about weight loss at the age of 21 when I topped the scale at the doctor’s office at 396 pounds. For the last 16 years I have fought the battle of the bulge, and have tried numerous diet methods and studied countless others. Some worked for a time, some didn’t, some didn’t suit me enough to give a real try and some were insane. I have come down to 192 pounds in that time and it has been my experience that every diet has the following factors in common -

  1. Drink More Water: Every diet recommends more water. From the classic “5-8 8 ounce glasses per day” to the mantra “Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate!”, each and every diet on the market recommends more of what we are primarily made of, namely good ‘ol H2O. In addition to headaches, nausea, and poor immune system function, dehydration can negatively impact your metabolism and that helps keep on the fat.
  2. Eat Less: Ok, yeah, duh! This one is bloody obvious. Some diets try to obfuscate the fact that they are trying to lower your caloric intake, but they all have a touch of this most apparent way to lose excess weight. At the very least, taking in less will help you to not gain and allow the next tool to do its job.
  3. Move More: Exercise. Metabolic boosting. Calorie burning. In addition to simply being good for you, being fit helps to trim off the excess weight and/or transform it into more useful matter such as muscle.
  4. Make Better Food Choices: “You are what you eat.” There is a reason that saying is age old. I am not one to suggest removal of fat from the diet since fat is what keeps our joints healthy and contributes to long term endurance, but I am a champion of replacing “crap” with quality.
  5. Get More Rest/Sleep: Amen. The first thing to go when you get insufficient sleep is energy levels. That energy is most easily replaced in the short term with an elevated caloric intake. Being tired makes you hungry, and you reach for more food. The next thing to go is your basil metabolic rate so now the extra food to keep you going during the day more easily turns to stored fat. Next, your immune system takes a hit leading to more frequent sickness and further lowering of your metabolism. (And, of course, we all know the way to deal with a cold is to feed it.)

The above factors form the core of a great many of the diets available on the market. They layer on various flavors of bells & whistles, but if you strip away the fluff, these factors are all there.

There is a sixth factor that is terribly common for commercial diets, failure. This is not true for 100% of all participants of conventional diets, so it doesn’t make the Top 5, but the vast majority of diets either fail outright, or fail in the long term. In my mind the most basic reason is this: There is no easy fix. It takes months and years of unhealthy choices to put on enough weight that most people are willing to do something about it. To imagine that it won’t take a long commitment to undo the damage is wishful thinking. Yes, most diets can produce examples on demand of people they worked quickly and efficiently for. Those are the lucky minority. The statistics simply don’t work in the favor of diets.

To my thinking, part of that is a basic definitional problem with what the word “diet” has come to mean. The root Greek word for diet is diatia which is literally, manner of living, from diaitasthai to lead one’s life. I prefer to think of it now in those terms, and see the issue as being one of changing the very basis of my manner of living.

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Be careful what You say, it may come back to haunt Me


26 Apr

One of the tools I have learned for trying to make sense of my own life, and my reaction to it, is to trace reactions and impulses to the places in my life of crisis where they developed. I was thinking about body image today and remembered one of the incidents which contributed to my skewed image of my own body and my skewed image of the motivations of those who react to it positively.

I was at the hospital. I don’t remember what exactly for, but I was a fairly sickly child with multiple allergies, asthma, a persistent infection in my foot, and of course an obesity problem. I believe it was an evaluation for an exploratory surgery, but it might have been a follow up to having my tonsils removed. The doctor seeing me was a young, close-cropped hair type with the best of newly graduated intentions. He would not look straight at my mother, and barely at me, as he spoke about the concerns he had for my health and development since I carried “so much extra weight.” My mother has an obesity issue as well, and looking back I can understand why he might have been nervous about speaking with her about my weight issue without being at liberty to discuss hers. Adults do funny things at each other when kids are around. Anyways, the crux of this incident was when he reflected that I probably would be able to get a girlfriend despite my weight since, “there are some girls who are attracted to overweight men, called ‘chubby chasers’. Usually skinny girls who didn’t get much food as they were being brought up.”

Great! Thanks, Doc! I have a future of relationships with odd ball anorexic gals with fear of starvation. That’s really going to work out well as I pig out and they shiver with worry that I might eat all the available food and relegate them to starving again. Perfect!

Luckily for me if I ever met a girl with terrors of being underfed who was physically attracted to me I was too shy to notice. Thank God for looking out!

It’s a wonder how insensitive we can be sometimes with kids. But, what is more remarkable to me is how much of my evaluation of the relationships in my life have been informed by that one instance. Psychology is a weird, and very delicate thing. Looking back now I can have a conversation with that small, chubby boy who was me and try to set him straight. I can help him (and me) to realize that the Doctor’s words were well intended but truly ignorant. I don’t blame the Doctor for what he said, even though I do think at that moment he was kind of an idiot, but I can take responsibility now for how I continue to let his words affect me, and how much I can let them go.  We can’t change our past, bur we can re-frame our understanding of it and reform our reactions from it.

Travis Eneix

Dedicated to looking at the self.