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Tip For Getting Out Of The Then


11 May

A friend asked me this morning for a practice for staying out of thoughts about the past, and spinning out on hyper-analytical dissection of previous events.  In other words, “getting out of the then.”  I thought others might dig it and find it useful, so here it is:

Steps for getting back to here and now:

  1. Take a breath. A nice deep long one like all the books on relaxation tell you to.  Inhale slowly, pause for a heart beat and the exhale gentle and long and deep.
  2. Scan the body. From mindfulness-style meditation do a scan, top to bottom, or bottom to top of the sensations in your body, not your mind.
  3. Ask yourself, “What is actually happening right now?” Then answer the question with the first impression that makes itself known.  This morning when I did that the answer was, “Soft light coming in through the window.”

That’s it.  The real secret is to make this a habit.  When we have a habit of past-sifting or future-tripping, the solution (like for all habits) is to employ a counter-habit.  Use a practice regularly enough that it becomes something we do naturally.  Eventually, in this way, the new habit will overtake the old one.

We are creatures of habit, and we can use that to our advantage!

Find a habit you don’t like and give it the one-two combination of a conscious and planned counter-habit repeated many times.

Cheers!

Cooperation, You’re Built To Be Doing It


09 May

Here’s an excerpt from a transcript of an interview on Oprah:

“If you talk to people in aboriginal or indigenous cultures, you find the highest societal values is cooperation. And competition is a very low value. And competition beyond certain boundaries is considered mental illness,” says author Thom Hartmann in I Am. “You look at our culture, and cooperation is considered a relatively low value. And competition is considered the highest value. We celebrate the most powerful competitors.”

But is competition the true essence of human nature? Thom says that scientists decided to test this hypothesis and found that it is not.

“What [scientists] found was that democracy was being played out literally every day by … animals,” Thom says. He recalls his own experiences of going scuba diving and seeing schools of fish dart around as a collective group, and also remembers watching flocks of birds in his backyard fly together and change directions suddenly while still remaining together.

“How did they know?” Thom asks. “Well, it turns out, when you do the slow-motion photography, they’re all voting literally with every wing beat or with every gill beat. They’re voting hundreds of times a minute. And [the scientists] said, ‘We found this from insects all the way up to primates.’ The basis of nature is cooperation and democracy. It’s in our DNA.”

For me this brings up one of the core arguments of the Atma Vichara practice; namely that the cause of a great many dysfunctions in our lives is being attached to the idea that what we really are is these separate individual lives.  Once that lie has been swallowed we cut ourselves off from life, along with each other.  The world at large then becomes “the other” and is filled with danger and competition.  We set ourselves against basically everything else.  Even those we have a seeming alliance with (friends, family, loved ones, co-workers) are kept at a distance with one eye on their activities as we remain ever watchful of betrayal.

That seed of poison fouls the whole works.  If we step back from that assumption for just a moment it begins to fall apart.  As I was reading the above article I was eating a sandwich I’d made for lunch.  Examining that sandwich just slightly past the level of raw appearance reveals an infinitely complex wed of interrelations with every part of the world and even the cosmos.  From the milk harvested for the cheese, to the workers gathering the grain for the bread, to the trucker who brought the avocado to my local store, to the sun which fuels the whole process at very few degrees of separation, to the oscillation of our solar system within the Milky Way.  All is connected in a web of interdependence and interrelations not because they are separate components working together but truly because reality is complete and ultimately one.

P.S. – It was a damn fine sandwich!

Keep These In Your Pocket


28 Apr

Life can be tough to navigate and deal with sometimes.  For my money it’s a good idea to have some tools & tricks to deal with the bugger when it goes pear-shaped, or gets weird.

I once read that the reason why Buddhism is given in lists (4 noble truths, 8 fold path, 3 root poisons, etc) is because the Buddha taught before such things were written down, and it is easier to remember lists.  Being as I have a terrible memory, I can really get behind the idea of keeping it simple.

To that end I think there are a few things everyone could use to keep handy.

A way to keep fit that you enjoy. For me that’s Aikido and Tai Chi.  Those have the added bonus of keeping me a bit safer too.  Tai Chi is awesome for its portability.  I also collect odd body-weight exercises that I can always do should I need a quick workout.

Some level of knowledge of how to keep your system fueled. Here I am thinking about a modicum of knowledge about food and how to make healthy choices.  I also have a simple food-plan I picked up from my active time in OA – three meals a day, no snacks, no sweets, no peanut butter, no pizza.  That combined with a basic fear of fast food keeps me well fueled.

A philosophical model/modality that helps you get through life. I keep a few basic truisms close to hand – “The map is not the territory”, “Opinion is not fact”, “We all see through our own distinct reality-tunnels”, and my personal favorite, “All statements are true in some sense, false in some sense, meaningless in some sense, true and false in some sense, true and meaningless in some sense, false and meaningless in some sense, and true and false and meaningless in some sense.”  I also like, “Don’t be that guy”, and (thanks to Diane) “Just be cool, dude.”  I also like Buddhism for compactness and a basic strong grounding in psychology, Taoism for simplicity, and the Integral Model for catch all applicability/orientation.

A way to connect to the truth. Atma Vichara and Meditation are my mainstays here. Atma Vichara you can find out about (my take on it) here.  For Meditation you can poke around my tagged posts here.  The vichara gets me zeroed in on the basic truth of what I am, and by extension since there really is not-two in this reality, the truth of everything.  That may be a bold statement, but luckily the truth cannot be spoken so i don’t have to bother to try.  ;)   Meditation helps me develop equanimity and sharpens my awareness.  Two very useful skills for dealing with this wacky world.

What are some of your tools for getting along in life?  I would love to hear them!

Cheers!

You, You, You


20 Mar

Like any seeker I started by looking outside myself. I looked for the right way to be, the right teachings and teachers to follow, the right posture to keep, the right pattern of breath, the right shape of body. Eventually I was told to look within. To seek what I sought in the raw sense of being. My “you-ness”. The pure simple presence that underlies what I call “me”, lacking any labels or identification, being the ground and source of all of that. “Look at yourself. Look at you.” That’s what I was advised to do. So I did. Layer after layer was discarded. Thing after thing found and put aside as not “you” since I was the one doing the finding. Along the way I would have glimpses into the “core you” of others as well, seeing past their presentation into their pure presence. Deeper and deeper I pushed my looking. One day there was a… crumble. Not a pop, or explosion, or sudden opening. Just a crumbling away of the interconnected set of memories and habits that form who I thought I was. But, that was only me thinking it. I felt it quietly tumble down leaving only a you. It returned of course, to one degree or another depending on the day, but once you see a thing crumble it’s hard to quite believe in it anymore.

There, at the base of you there is only you. Awareness is only things effecting things, encountering each other, leaving traces.  What I found of my “you” was that there is no you standing apart from anything else in order to be aware of it.  Even my most primal “self sense” dropped away the instant I realized I was aware of it and therefore it was not me.  The more I looked, the more I did not find until finally I came face to face with the fact that all and everything is only ever just you playing out as you in order that you might have a sense of you.  Perhaps not even in order for that to be, but it just happens to be that way.  You cannot find a you apart from that, which means (from what I can find anyways) that all of that, just as it is, is you.

So, at the most basic level it seems like there is no you to find, and yet you know that.  You know that because everything encountered affirms you.  The most banal circumstance in day to day life screams out, “You!”  So, there you are.  You are the ground of all.  You are also all arising phenomena reminding you that you are you, what else could they be?  You are the person living the life, doing your thing, making your way.  At any level that you decide to look at what is going on, there you are.  No matter where you go.

Bottom, middle, or top – you find you there.

In short: You are a cosmic parfait.

A RAW Day


08 Mar

So, there I was having a groovy day after a spectacular meditation this morning.  In an IM conversation this morning I mentioned the movie Maybe Logic, interviews with Robert Anton Wilson.  I expressed the fact that I have a lot of love for that man, and watching the movie always tugs at my heart in the best way.  I love me some RAW!

So, after a day of fire alarms randomly going off at work with testing, teaching Aikido to 5 kids (2 old students and 3 new ones), teaching Tai Chi then training in Aikido class for an hour and a half I was in a very contented and pleasant frame of being.  I opted to go get some sushi.  As I walked slowly back with my order I suddenly got the urge to check the order stub.

Some of you may be familiar already with the sacred (to Discordians) 23 enigma.  If not, go here real quick.

Well, looks like RAW decided to slap me upside the head.  Check the stub above.  3 + 6 + 6 + 8 = 23.  9 + 0 + 0 + 7 + 2 + 5 = 23! I cracked up as I sat down with my RAW fish and decided to share this with the world…. at 9:14.  Think about it….

P.S. – It was 2 orders of nigiri and 3 maki rolls. ;)

Travis Eneix

Dedicated to looking at the self.