Archive for December, 2007

Face Your Food


20 Dec

Over at ZenHabits, there’s a great set of fitness tips – 14 Stress-Free Ways to Kick Weight Loss in the Butt.

A habit I have been working on personally speaks to three of Leo’s points:

3. Become aware of your hunger. This is one of the key things I’ve been learning. Many times we are not conscious of how hungry we are. We ignore our bodies because we’re too busy thinking about other things… Learn to listen to your body.

5. Learn to eat until satiated. Again, pay attention to your body as you eat. If you eat mindlessly, you will most likely overeat. You’ll just keep cramming food into yourself until you’ve eaten too much. We’ve all felt the pain of being overstuffed. Don’t allow that to happen — be mindful of your eating, and of your hunger… before you go back for seconds, stop and take a break for a few minutes. Drink some water, talk to somebody, read, go do something, clean the kitchen a little. Whatever it takes. Often you’ll find that you really didn’t need the seconds. And then you’ve saved yourself a few hundred calories.

13. Forgive, and move on. If you make a mistake, or cheat more than you should, don’t just give up or beat yourself up. This kind of negative thinking is why people don’t stay on diets for long. They binge and then go back to their unhealthy habits. Instead, just forgive yourself for any indulgences, and get back on your healthy eating plan. Look forward, not backward.

I have been battling against excess weight for the balance of my life.  When I was 21 I turned hit bottom, turned the corner and started the long road down from 396 pounds.  I have learned a lot along the way.  Mostly I have learned that I am a compulsive overeater.  I eat, to excess, as a matter of course.  This used to be a cause of self-hatred, but thankfully it no longer is.  It simply is, what it is.  I am a compulsive overeater.

I accepted that distinction a couple of years ago, and the results have been awesome.  I dropped another 50+ pounds, and for the first time in my life the weight loss feels real, not some stroke of luck that is going to disappear as miraculously as it appeared.  I move lighter, have more energy, and am a good deal more content.

However (you knew there was going to be one), I have started slipping lately.  I have not had any between meal snacks, solid sugar foods (cookies, candy, pastries, etc.), pizza, or peanut butter for the last 2+ years.   But, my portions have slowly gotten bigger during my three daily meals, and my weight has crept up a bit.  I pondered this, prayed over it, meditated about it, raged around it and wrote a good deal.  Finally, it dawned.  There is one place during my day when I forget that I am a compulsive overeater: when I actually sit down to eat.  Once the food is in front of me the blinders go on, and I eat.  And, as I said above, for me that means to excess as a matter of course.
So, for the last week and a half I have added a new practice.  Every time I sit down to eat I repeat a little internal, quiet, secret affirmation.  “I am a compulsive overeater.”  Again, this is not bad, it is only so.  That is part of how this particular body/mind is wired.  I am not at fault for this.  Doing that reminds me of where I am, and what I am doing.  Namely, eating.  Then I can listen to my body, know when I am told that I have had enough to satisfy.  At that point I can, with no guilt or remorse, stop.

The result?  Five pounds down on the scale, back to under 200 pounds, and a pervading feeling of serenity in my life as the facing of food is no longer a source of dread and unconscious stress.

I am a compulsive overeater, hear me smile.

What The Baha’i?!?


18 Dec

Some of you may have read earlier that I recently became ordained in the Universal Life Church. I got my ID card in the mail, and proudly show it off to anyone that stands still next to me for more than fifteen seconds. Making this move has had a profoundly confirming effect on some of my own religious/spiritual beliefs, and has led me down some interesting paths.

One of these lines of inquiry has been trying to look for religions with a truly open stance. They are few, and far between. The Universal Life Church is all embracing, its only directive to “do what is right.” I also came across the DoNoHarm website, whose only message is (you guessed it) “do no harm.” Fair enough, and very basic in its global appeal, but also very sparse in details.

In poking around more I indulged by curiosity about the Baha’i movement and found a good website about them here. Founded by the messianic figure, Baha’u'llah in 19th-century Persia, emphasizing the spiritual unity of all humankind, the Baha’i faith purports to teach an open acceptance of all peoples of all races and creeds. The central theme of Baha’u'llah’s teachings is that humanity is a single race which should now be united in one global society.

Awesome! Just what I was looking for. I excitedly dug into the various web pages I found. Sadly, after about three minutes of excitement I came across this gem on the Wikipedia entry for the Baha’i faith:

Sexual relationships are permitted only between a husband and wife, and thus premarital or homosexual sex activity is forbidden.

Uh, oh.

Following the thread a little deeper we learn:

…it is clear from the teaching of Baha’u'llah that homosexuality is not a condition to which a person should be reconciled, but is a distortion of his or her nature which should be controlled or overcome. This may require a hard struggle, but so also can be the struggle of a heterosexual person to control his or her desires. – Letter of the Universal House of Justice to an individual believer, 12 January 1973; Lights of Guidance, p. 366, #1222

Ok, so, you’re welcome as long as you are straight, or curb your inclinations. Uh, huh.

The Baha’i church received some flak over this issue (likely from some homosexual people who would like to be accepted in a religion that says everyone should be accepted), and released a statement in 1996. Here are some excerpts:

  • “…the sexual impulse is a God-given one… The appropriate circumstance for this is within marriage, the legally, socially, and spiritually sanctioned union of two adults of the opposite sex. Other expressions are neither valid nor to be encouraged.”
  • “The moral and sexual education of children cannot be taken separately, and must be based upon heterosexuality, fidelity, and the family unit.”
  • “This is taught by the world’s great religions, and is part of the basis of a stable and civilized society.”

That last one strikes me rather particularly. One of the central tenets of the Baha’i faith is that Baha’u'llah came to teach the most advanced message available directly from God. However, that last excerpt reads, to me, as “Well, yeah, this is the new deal but we don’t think we should rock the boat, or anything. The other guys say it’s supposed to be that way, so we will go with that.”

Bollocks.

I have run into this wall, in various forms, and for a variety of issue (sexual preference, gender equality, racial superiority, religious righteousness) in any faith which reaches a certain, very low, point of codification. It seems that as soon as you start to elucidate how a particular spiritual doctrine should play out in one’s life, some yahoo comes along and slaps down some line of “us vs. them.” The only paths truly free of that are the most simple of insights, such as those given by the Universal Life Church, Robert Anton Wilson, DoNoHarm, and Self-Inquiry.

I suppose there is a certain poetic justice in that, though. For, if what the great ones have said is true, then we are already saved/enlightened/awake/realized. We are, already as we are, part & parcel of God. We are the shining face of the one occurring ever-present occasion of Spirit. We are the Way. From the perspective it makes sense that we should not be helped by, or even need help from, any set of codes or rules. We should stand on our own feet and see, directly and without mediation, what we truly are. And, from that place of grace we will be naturally led to live our lives well and good. For, of it’s true, then we are all One and there is not Two anywhere to be found. In that light it only makes sens to not be cruel to your neighbor, for your neighbor is you.

Do what thou wilt, shall be the whole of the law.

Do what is right.

Do no harm.

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I Can’t Get Enough Of Carnivals!


15 Dec

I made it into the carnival hosted by anmolmehta.com, again.  Check it out – Meditation, Yoga & Spiritual Growth Carnival- Edition #11  If you like their efforts, or any of the articles, look out for them by social bookmarking, or commenting their posts.  Spread the love while studying the Dharma!

For other carnivals like this one, or carnivals on different subjects, go over to BlogCarnival.com, and peruse the extensive listings.

Cheers!

500 Big Ideas! With Audio!


12 Dec

One of the websites I enjoy is ThinkArete.com by Brian Johnson, the founder of Zaadz.com.  Brian just added audio recordings to his Big Ideas section.  Big Ideas are little gems that Brian has pulled from a vast array of teachers, sages, and thinkers.  I hope you enjoy the offerings collected there half as much as I do.

As a sample -

“If anything is worth doing, do it with all your heart.”

~ Buddha, 6th century bce Indian mystic and founder of Buddhism from The Dhammapada

Cheers!

Self-Esteem: We May Have It Backwards


10 Dec

Kudos again to Leo, over at ZenHabits.  He posted a great article today – 25 Killer Actions to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Coincidentally I was reading an article about self-esteem over the weekend in What is Enlightenment? magazine.  It was a piece by Maura R. O’Connor – “Are We Feeling Too Good about Ourselves for Our Own Good?”  In the article she discusses the origins of the term self-esteem.  The phrase was first coined by William James in 1890.  It was  a measure of number of successes of personally important goals versus failures of same.  In other words, self-esteem was seen to be built up by success, and eroded by failure.

The concept was embraced in the circles of psychology in the mid 60′s, and slowly morphed over the years to the point that it’s meaning was reversed.  Self-Esteem became a component cause of success, rather than a result.  Parents were encouraged to laud their children, telling them how inherently special and important they are to build self-esteem.  The result was not what was hope for.  Instead of producing a generation of star performers, a generation of entitlement was produced.  Kids no longer felt as much need to prove themselves because they were already special, unique, important.  Instead of earning self-esteem, its after effects were pre-given.  This sets up a seriously deep level of disillusionment as the children grow into adulthood either not bothering to make effort, or being terribly confused when that effort meets with failure (which is statistically bound to happen to everyone and is a natural part of the learning process) and lie is given to the idea that they are already great.  It leads to a breakdown in inherent trust for early authority figures, and leaves one ill equipped to recover from the occasional set back.  Then, a vicious circle gets up as the false foundations of self-esteem are revealed as pipe dreams and the adult must now come to grips with the fact that success is not inherent.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I do truly believe that each and every emergent form of Spirit is inherently important and capable of great things, but I don’t believe that those great thing must occur as a matter of course.  I consider myself a victim of the above cycle, in gross and subtle ways, and I see it in many of my peers.

Because of the reversal of the meaning of self-esteem, and it’s nearly global application in this country, we have been left as a generation of people who either promise far in excess of our capabilities, feel no need to prove ourselves ever, or become bitterly resentful of unfulfilled promises on a subconscious level built on hollow hopes.

For my money, the tips Leo gave about achieving small goals are the best bet (14, 15, 20, 22, & 24).  Self-esteem is a measure of overall success, and adding to the pile of things to be proud about will have a snowballing effect.

Travis Eneix

Dedicated to looking at the self.